If my child wants to go back and live with the biological parents, what should I do?

//If my child wants to go back and live with the biological parents, what should I do?

If my child wants to go back and live with the biological parents, what should I do?

This is a very difficult and trying situation for any family. No parents would want this. Try and understand your child’s reasons for saying this. Sometimes it may be just to get parental attention over the other sibling or to get something from the parents by making them anxious. It’s not unusual for children to “play” on their parents’ emotions to get something they want. But the reasons may run deeper, and the child may be getting feelings of insecurity, lovelessness, and may feel that there is a gap in their life which the biological parents may be able to fulfill. Try and understand the problem and try to fill this gap. If the child is an adult and still wants to go –arrange a meeting with the biological parents and visit them with the child. The child may find it easier to love two sets of parents than to have to make a choice. And forcing an adult child may not be the right thing to do.

In many cases, the child may be able to understand why their parents had to give them up for adoption and in other cases, they might not- and both these situations may lead to mixed feelings about the biological parents in the child’s mind. They may forgive or resent the biological parents. Either way, sometimes we need to go through the process to arrive at an equilibrium of our own, and children are no exception to this.

By | 2020-08-19T14:11:58+05:30 August 19th, 2020|Top Concerns|0 Comments

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